Why Lack Of Self-Belief Limits What You Could Achieve.
Self-belief And My Own Experiences
Welcome back to anybody interested enough to listen to my opinions!
If you have ever read a blog of mine, then you would know my beliefs are always based on honesty and are here to express my personal outlook on whatever is on my mind. They are not here to offend anybody, so don't read ahead if you don't like what I have to say.
To those who do enjoy it though, I apologise for taking so long to write a new one. It has been something I've wanted to do for what feels like forever now, but trying to stay motivated for something that takes time and effort can be difficult when there hasn't been a topic which for a while I felt was worth mentioning.
However, i've just come out of a lesson with my 55 year old student whose had life experiences such as years upon years of experience in publishing, manager of a top publishing company in his country, the guy makes 100k+,owns houses in the centre of a capital city and the list goes on. If you were to hear his stories, it literally screams out the word ENVY.
Although his life came crashing down a few months ago, when his company decided he was too old to work for them and made him redundant. My student now spends hours of his life a week job searching for an area of field that believes he's too old...
It's enough to knock your confidence right?
But what I love about him, is that no matter what knockbacks he's experiencing right now he always manages to have self-belief in himself that some employer will look at his CV and believe he's worth it.
Unfortunetly we live in a society where without having the latest gadgets, working in a high end job or dinning in fancy resturants and posting them to social media is the new normal and without that we're worthless.
Our societal values have limited people from achieving realistic goals such as finding a long term partner and keeping it private or being able to celebrate working in retail because judgemental people are increasingly getting worse and making people self-doubt how they live their lives. It's a no wonder why people's mental health are beginning to suffer because people nowerdays can't appreciate the basic things in life and more and more young people are aspiring to do or achieve realistic expectations because its not deemed ''good enough,''
The teaching world for example that my career is based in are some of the most judgemental people you can ever meet.
I started my career abroad as a language teacher, where all you needed was a qualification. This 200 pound qualification has enabled me to work with hundards of people and allowed me to be so dynamic in what I do as I've worked in summer schools, academic schools, public schools and the corporate world and so on thanks to it. However, because it's not deemed by the judgers as a ''degree.'' I'm not recongised for the work i've done as I should be because im labelled as an ''unqualified teacher.'' which fustrates the hell out of me because people forget I lesson plan, had my own classroom, build personal relations with my students and did everything that a qualified teacher would do.
Another thing that pisses me off is what I do here in the UK. I am a supply teacher in a secondary school where I cover teachers lessons. I don't have my own lesson and I am only told what I'm doing on the day of class. Every lesson is with 30+ new or different students, I cover the best content I can with the kids like the teachers would, i'm up against it from the start as children think because i'm a supply they can do what they want and I have to build up quick relationships with them to help me survive the hour. Luckily I am a good teacher and can manage behaviour well so I do it without ease. But thanks to my self-belief in my ability is the only thing that gets me through.
Yet again my ''lack of degree'' prevents me from being recongised and appreciated by both teacher and student because obviously i'm on less money because I don't know the cirriculum for that particular subject. But if only people knew my background, 7 GCSES, 2 A levels, 30 residential care qualifications, 3 level 2's in councelling, mental health and safeguarding, 5 educational certificates and starting uni to achieve an open honours degree would judgemental people recognise my talents and abilities.
Judgers don't realise the impact their assumptions can have on people's self-belief and their opinions can actually limit what people can achieve in life because they don't feel worthy enough to do it. This is why people need to stop being judgemental in the world and it will actually make the world just a little better.
I self-believe (which I can assure has taken years of mastering) which has greatly changed my outlook on life and allows me to just get better and better and enables me to feel like I have/ am achieving in my life. At the end of the year I always write down what I have achieved to help me see what I have managed to do over the year and I feel this really helps me put it into perspective.
When we believe in what we do, it tells the haters to say ''fuck you,'' and we live our lives unapologetic.
Never change and don't give up!
Erin x
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