December Writing Dump

                                                        December Writing Dump 

Welcome to another blog! 

Do you ever have a writing block? If you are like me and enjoy writing about anything that comes into your head, then you will understand how difficult it can be when every idea you have, fails to sound interesting enough and you doubt your ideas. 

I recently came across an interesting quote that has stuck out to me ''You need 5 hobbies - one that makes you money, one that keeps you in shape, one that keeps you creative, one to build knowledge, and one to evolve your mindset'' I find this quote very interesting because I think it is generally true. As human beings, we need to constantly stay active for our self-worth, esteem, and control. Without hobbies and interests, we fail to see ''a goal'' as something, that helps us stay positive. We need to evaluate, evolve and grow to be the best versions we can be. 

''Time out'' is ridiculously important because we need time to take out of our everyday busy lives and evaluate what is needed to improve our current situations. I recently wrote a blog about relationships and I was feeling really fed up with the type of guys I was attracting. In the space of 3 months, I had three situationships, which affected my self-esteem badly and I needed time out to reassess and grow. I've taken since September time out from dating. I've had many people ask ''You been dating recently'' the answer is a big fat no. I don't want to date for the sake of dating to feel ''validated'', I want to date if I feel like dating. I've gone through the process - Not being interested, ''hating'' men, feeling a bit lonely, wishing I took up people on offers, and then repeating the whole process again and again. 

I've recently decided that this process is totally normal and you shouldn't be comparing your situation to other people, especially from social media. Your choice is your choice and I totally promote this. If you feel ready, then great go out and try your luck and if you are not ready, DON'T. What I have been putting 100% effort into is ME. I have taken control of my health, and I've tried doing things like cutting down on my smoking (I love it though!), Going to the gym 4-5 times per week, Going out of my way to treat myself, Getting all of my beauty bits done, Focused on writing and generally doing all the things that I know make me happy. I've also put more energy into my friends which is also important. 

After seeing that quote, it got me thinking what are my five hobbies? 

1) The one that will help me make money is TEACHING 

2) The one that will help me be creative is WRITING

3) The one that will help me keep in shape is GYM, WALKING and SWIMMING 

4) The one that will help me build knowledge is READING

5) The one that will help me evolve my mindset - LEARNING FROM OTHERS

I have recently been co-writing a book with my friend, which has been so rewarding as it was something I always wanted to try doing. I LOVE reading, and I am really imaginative so why not? I love reading every genre of book - I read online and also from a good hard copied book, however my favourite is Erotic. Our book we have been creating are short fantasies, condensed into one book with different chapters. Next year, I have set myself a goal to create 1 book. If you have read my book, (I'm pretty open with sharing it) you may be wondering ''Are these your own fantasies'' The answer is No. I have had to try to explain this over and over again. The books we create are situations that are not your ''average''. We wanted to create something, that makes you imagine you are the character in the book. The book covers situations that tackle the emotional and physically aspects that come from sex. They tackle the stigma of Dom/Sub relationships as well as the perspectives of the characters. Me and my friend have always been creative and our writing styles are the polar opposites which works. I am more of a primal type of person, pretty much to the point whereas she is more of a seductive person and loves the build up to something. Working with both perspectives have been interesting and really fun playing with. If I say so myself, our books are great and it is doing well on the app we publish it on. (INKITT) 

As my energy has been focusing on other areas such as myself and my hobbies, I have hardly had any mental and physical energy to focus on other aspects. I need to go out and just be me. I need a good night out with some of my friends and let myself go. So life has been mundane recently, I am looking forward to three weeks not working for Xmas, as I am feeling abit burnt-out now. I am sick of being ''Teacher Erin'' I just want to feel my age and have fun. I'm one of these types of people who prefers socialising on my holidays rather than every weekend, because my job is so time consuming and full on. I feel when I go out out on the weekends, I'm wiped out the next day and bam before you know it, I'm working again. Therefore when I finish on the 23rd it will be really good to go away for Xmas with my family and then back to England for New years - which with the plans I have will be a very busy time. But it will be so good to catch up with family and friends and not have to worry I have work the next day. 

It is important that you don't compare your life with others, just because you are going through a very mundane stage your life is more boring than others. You'd be surprised how many people who are living the ''high life' wished they were doing the same secretly. Do things that make you happy and put you into a healthy mentality. It is needed. 

Erin x